- Wed Jan 09, 2019 10:49 pm
Yikes. That's horrible. :(
And yes, pretty much. When I was younger before I originally moved out a few years ago, I learned to just let a lot of things slide because my dad does NOT like to be challenged or corrected in any way shape or form and if you try to tell him he's doing something wrong or being a hypocrite, he literally BLOWS up. Like, to the point it's not even funny.
He also makes offhand comments about things and then gets mad that you didn't do something about the comment he made. Like the other night he made a comment about the food bowl being empty for the cats. He literally said "the cat bowl is empty."
I made a mental note to fill it back up later because Dustin and I have one in our room that I knew still had food in it so I didn't consider it an urgent matter. The next day, while were in the living room, I'm on the recliner and my dad kicks the chair (not hard, but still) and points to the food bowl and goes "you didn't fill it up yesterday."
First off, he didn't ASK me to fill it up, he just said it was empty and like I said, the other one had food in it, and two, if it was that big of a deal, why couldn't he have just done it himself?
He pulls this crap all the time and when he does "ask" for me to do something, he doesnt actually ask, he tells me to do something.
I've let this stuff go for so long that it's hard for me to figure out the best way to approach this because even if I Express my concerns politely, he flips his lid.
Its hard to deal with and my boyfriend is having the same issues. So yeah. Life with dad is not all that great and what's worse, because of an agreement between me and Dustin where I pay more of the rent so he can save up for a car for go ou ng back to school and for going back to school in general, I'm not saving any money because my dad is charging us $600 a month to live there.
It's a fair price under different circumstances, but I hope he's okay with lowering it once Dustin actually starts school because I want him to be able to focus on school and making sure his car is taken care of while I take care of everything else.
So yeah. The struggle is real.